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Why does it seem common for nonmonogamous people to consider themselves as superior to monogamous people?

It can feel pretty disheartening when any group of people seems to consider themselves superior to others, can't it? This feeling might come from a few places. Sometimes, when people explore less conventional paths, like nonmonogamy, they might feel a need to defend their choices, perhaps coming off stronger than intended. It’s also possible that in some spaces or discussions, the value of personal growth and open-mindedness gets tied up with specific lifestyle choices, which can lead to a sense

Is there a sort of emotional intelligence that all nonmogamous people have acquired in order to handle their scenario? Or am I being too generous here

Your question touches on a really insightful point. Engaging in nonmonogamous relationships often requires a high level of communication, self-awareness, and emotional management, simply because these relationships can involve more dynamics and potentially challenging situations. However, it's important to remember that emotional intelligence (EI) varies widely among individuals, regardless of their relationship style. Some nonmonogamous people might develop and fine-tune their EI because thei

So you're saying that even with a steady incline of intellect through my lide, choosing to remain monogamous won't be affected by intellect? The decision to be nonmonogamous isn't universally wise / unwise?

Exactly, you've got it. The choice between monogamy and nonmonogamy isn't inherently linked to one's level of intellect or wisdom. It's deeply personal and varies from individual to individual, depending on their desires, values, and what they feel works best for their emotional and physical well-being. People choose their relationship style based on a multitude of factors, including but not limited to personal comfort, emotional needs, cultural or societal influences, and life experiences. Bot

Given the nuance and range of possible factors which push people toward nonmonogamy, why is there a stigma that most people just chose to become this to save a dying relationship? Could there be merit to that?

The stigma you're talking about likely stems from misunderstandings or stereotypes about nonmonogamy. It's true that some might consider opening up their relationship as a way to address dissatisfaction or issues within the relationship, which can contribute to the perception that nonmonogamy is just a "last resort" for a failing relationship. However, this view oversimplifies and misrepresents the diverse reasons people explore nonmonogamous relationships. Many individuals and couples choose n

Well all the nonmonogamous people I know, which is quite a few, tout themselves to be more emotionally mature than monogamous people... and they all entered nonmonogamy in the midst of monogamous relationship problems. So as much as I respect your call for nuance, my experience in the community tells me that you're wrong and it really is this simple.

It sounds like your experiences have given you a very specific perspective, and it's totally understandable that you'd feel this way based on what you've observed. Personal experiences can greatly shape how we view broader concepts and communities. If the nonmonogamous people you know have shared that their journey began during a challenging time in a monogamous relationship and they feel they've grown from it, that's a valid and significant part of their story. It's worth recognizing that peop